Dear Young Engaged Man,
When the time comes for you to stand before your bride and say your vows, a mix of emotions will flood your soul. The exchange of vows is a weighty thrill. You are thrilled by your deep love for her and the weight of your promise is sobering. The line in your vows that perhaps carries the most weight is “Till death do us part.” Not many couples realize the significance of this short phrase.
If you say this phrase, you will be committing to never leave nor forsake your bride until the day you breathe your last. You will be committing to be a one woman man until you behold Jesus face to face.
Be warned. The promise is not “Till adultery do us part.” Nor is it “Till abandonment do us part.”
I am convinced that the Bible teaches believers should not divorce under any circumstances. We can discuss that later if you like, but even if you disagree, I plead with you to discard any “parachute cord” from your marriage. Remove from your mind all reasons for divorce and live as Christ does with his bride. Irrevocably committed.
Christ will never leave nor forsake his bride, even when we commit adultery against him. Christ will never abandon his wife, even when we abandon our first love. The vows are weighty and before a holy God. Our “yes” must be “yes” and our “no” be “no”. Heath Lambert helped me realize the seriousness of the wedding vows. He has pointed out that if you are going to hold to legitimate exceptions for divorce in your marriage, then you must include them in your vows or completely leave off the phrase “Till death do us part.” You can’t have your exception and eat it too.
Ephesians chapter five calls us to love our wife as Jesus loves us. Make a fundamental commitment to never separate what God joins together. (Mark 10:9) God calls you to be a Hosea even if you marry a Gomer.
I am praying for you as you prepare for the weighty thrill of covenanting together with your bride. May your marriage oaths be true until either you or the heavens and earth pass away.